How God Redeems Our Broken Childhoods

Lean in and listen close. God can and wants to redeem your broken childhood. I spent the better part of my life living in fear, shame, self doubt, and neglect. From the outside, everything seemed pretty ok. But when the doors were shut and the curtains closed, life was absolute hell. I didn’t know itContinue reading “How God Redeems Our Broken Childhoods”

How He Takes Our Brokenness

The last two weeks have weighed heavy on me. A friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer. A friend of mine is struggling with depression. Another precious soul is deeply addicted to illegal drugs. Life feels broken and dim. And all the pain and brokenness feels like a wet, heavy sweater around my shoulders thatContinue reading “How He Takes Our Brokenness”

When People You Love Fall Apart

Winter 2018 has been super heartbreaking in a lot of ways. Someone I love is addicted to drugs, and watching them lose everything and waste away has been tragic in ways so deep I’m not sure there are words to describe how I feel…anguish?? Someone I love has cancer. Someone I love is grieving theContinue reading “When People You Love Fall Apart”

9 Reasons Why Emotional Abuse Is Designed to Crush You

1. Because emotional abuse targets your soul and your personhood and your value. 2. Because emotional abuse hides in plain sight: there are no bruises. 3. Because the PURPOSE of emotional abuse is to inflict SHAME. And shame is often the underlying cause of depression, perfectionism, anxiety, fear, lack of self confidence, and even obsessiveContinue reading “9 Reasons Why Emotional Abuse Is Designed to Crush You”

From Victim to Healed: The Journey of Lament

No matter your story, no matter the type of abuse or level of abuse you might have endured, all sin wounds. And simply because all sin wounds, there is grief in the world. Here it is: the truth about pain: it must be grieved before it can be gone. Brokenness doesn’t go away. It mustContinue reading “From Victim to Healed: The Journey of Lament”

5 Lessons I Wish I Hadn’t Learned About Abusive People

Life is full of lessons. Some lessons change you for the better. Some…some you wish you’d never learned. These are the hardest moments in life. These are the moments that teach you to cling to our Heavenly Father in ways you never knew you could. 1. The people you love the most, will hurt youContinue reading “5 Lessons I Wish I Hadn’t Learned About Abusive People”

What The Past Decade Has Taught Me

When I turned 20 I couldn’t imagine myself at 30. Honestly, I wasn’t even sure I would survive the next ten years: depression was so dense around me. I knew God was good and there, but I just couldn’t seem to reach him. Like he was an ever-moving target…and there always seemed to be aContinue reading “What The Past Decade Has Taught Me”

Finding a Life You Love

Several years ago, I read this quote, “It’s ok to live a calm life.” I loved those words so much that I typed them up and printed them out and placed them in a frame, and there they lived for the next three years, on the wall beside my bookshelves. I never once moved thatContinue reading “Finding a Life You Love”

Praying Honest Prayers

I collect thoughts like a child collects pebbles on a rocky sea shore. Some of my thoughts are lovely, colorful, and I will keep them forever. Some I will discard immediately. Others are ugly and useless but it still takes a while to let them go… …you know the ones. We are told to takeContinue reading “Praying Honest Prayers”

When Abuse is “Normal”

About a year ago, when I began timidly wading through the mess of my brokenness, I began experiencing distance in many of my relationships. This was completely unexpected. The books I was reading and the questions I was asking…the stories I was beginning to share…all of it opened a door to a fresh kind ofContinue reading “When Abuse is “Normal””