There is a cost for every choice. And what you sacrifice or willingly offer up either wounds your soul or else repairs it. Because you are not just flesh and bone and blood pumping through veins. You are spirit. You are soul. You are deeply and irrevocably eternal.
Let go of the people who say they love you but hold everything against you. Because true love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs.
Let go of the people who tear down your dreams with wild words of incapable fears. Because real love always hopes. Continue reading “Listen to me. We are NEVER going back (R-rated)…”
The past 6 months haven’t looked like anything I ever imagined.
6 months ago, one conversation changed everything. It was a series of threats that took my life-long struggle against abuse and pushed me to the edge of a cliff. And I had a choice to make. Keep allowing this person to abuse me, or walk away. I walked away. Continue reading “The Goal of Abuse is to Destroy You”
I remembering telling someone once to stop saying sorry to me because they didn’t mean it. And I was tired of hearing it every day.
That simple, childhood realization was the first time I remember distinguishing between an apology and a repentant heart. I didn’t know what to call it. I just knew I was being lied to. Continue reading “When Sorry Isn’t Enough: A Christian’s Response”
Abuse is sin. And all sin is a lie. Continue reading “11 Effects of Abuse and the Truths That Will Help You Heal”
Lean in and listen close. God can and wants to redeem your broken childhood. I spent the better part of my life living in fear, shame, self doubt, and neglect. From the outside, everything seemed pretty ok. But when the … Continue reading How God Redeems Our Broken Childhoods
1. Because emotional abuse targets your soul and your personhood and your value. 2. Because emotional abuse hides in plain sight: there are no bruises. 3. Because the PURPOSE of emotional abuse is to inflict SHAME. And shame is often … Continue reading 9 Reasons Why Emotional Abuse Is Designed to Crush You
It is OK to live the life you want. And it is OK to say “no” to everything else. It is OK to live a calm life, a life free from trying to live up to someone else’s idea of … Continue reading It’s OK to Live the Live You Want
Deep breath. I see you. I see the hurt and the scars and the longing for wholeness. I see those tears and all those nights you spent with something cold and metal against your skin hoping that any sort of … Continue reading How to Treat Abusers With Love And Honor Even When They Don’t Change