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Category Archives: Healing
How to Find Your God-Given Identity in the Aftermath of Brokenness
One of the lasting effects of abuse is lack of identity. Abuse, neglect, abandonment, long-term exposure to manipulation and shame…they all leave you empty and deeply insecure.
A Mighty Work: The Beginning, Part 2
A few years ago, I decided to learn to grow things. I sat in this free “back yard gardening class” and listened to scientists from the University of Washington discuss the microbiology of soil. Who Knew! It turns out soil is actually quite alive and full of all sorts of crawling, microscopic organisms. Honestly, IContinue reading “A Mighty Work: The Beginning, Part 2”
How God Redeems Our Broken Childhoods
Lean in and listen close. God can and wants to redeem your broken childhood. I spent the better part of my life living in fear, shame, self doubt, and neglect. From the outside, everything seemed pretty ok. But when the doors were shut and the curtains closed, life was absolute hell. I didn’t know itContinue reading “How God Redeems Our Broken Childhoods”
How He Takes Our Brokenness
The last two weeks have weighed heavy on me. A friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer. A friend of mine is struggling with depression. Another precious soul is deeply addicted to illegal drugs. Life feels broken and dim. And all the pain and brokenness feels like a wet, heavy sweater around my shoulders thatContinue reading “How He Takes Our Brokenness”
What Healing Really Means
Do you know what it means to be healed? It means you are free. It means your shame is so far behind you you can barely see it when you look back. It means there is freedom of emotion when you walk beside the Lord step by step through a valley and come out intoContinue reading “What Healing Really Means”
When People You Love Fall Apart
Winter 2018 has been super heartbreaking in a lot of ways. Someone I love is addicted to drugs, and watching them lose everything and waste away has been tragic in ways so deep I’m not sure there are words to describe how I feel…anguish?? Someone I love has cancer. Someone I love is grieving theContinue reading “When People You Love Fall Apart”
9 Reasons Why Emotional Abuse Is Designed to Crush You
1. Because emotional abuse targets your soul and your personhood and your value. 2. Because emotional abuse hides in plain sight: there are no bruises. 3. Because the PURPOSE of emotional abuse is to inflict SHAME. And shame is often the underlying cause of depression, perfectionism, anxiety, fear, lack of self confidence, and even obsessiveContinue reading “9 Reasons Why Emotional Abuse Is Designed to Crush You”
It’s OK to Live the Live You Want
It is OK to live the life you want. And it is OK to say “no” to everything else. It is OK to live a calm life, a life free from trying to live up to someone else’s idea of how your life should look. Are you striving to love God with all your heartContinue reading “It’s OK to Live the Live You Want”
How to Treat Abusers With Love And Honor Even When They Don’t Change
Deep breath. I see you. I see the hurt and the scars and the longing for wholeness. I see those tears and all those nights you spent with something cold and metal against your skin hoping that any sort of release would help the hurting pain escape. God sees you. He sees you deep deepContinue reading “How to Treat Abusers With Love And Honor Even When They Don’t Change”
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