When you start healing and becoming more emotionally and spiritually healthy, you’ll find a fair amount of kickback along the road you’re traveling. Continue reading “When the Doubters Come Knocking (After You’ve Cut Contact With an Abuser)”
The past 6 months haven’t looked like anything I ever imagined.
6 months ago, one conversation changed everything. It was a series of threats that took my life-long struggle against abuse and pushed me to the edge of a cliff. And I had a choice to make. Keep allowing this person to abuse me, or walk away. I walked away. Continue reading “The Goal of Abuse is to Destroy You”
Let the haters go. They are too heavy to carry very far at all.
Let the abusers go. They will only teach you to drown yourself. Continue reading “Let The Heavy Things Go”
I remembering telling someone once to stop saying sorry to me because they didn’t mean it. And I was tired of hearing it every day.
That simple, childhood realization was the first time I remember distinguishing between an apology and a repentant heart. I didn’t know what to call it. I just knew I was being lied to. Continue reading “When Sorry Isn’t Enough: A Christian’s Response”
Abuse is sin. And all sin is a lie. Continue reading “11 Effects of Abuse and the Truths That Will Help You Heal”
One of the lasting effects of abuse is lack of identity. Abuse, neglect, abandonment, long-term exposure to manipulation and shame…they all leave you empty and deeply insecure. Continue reading “How to Find Your God-Given Identity in the Aftermath of Brokenness”
A few years ago, I decided to learn to grow things. I sat in this free “back yard gardening class” and listened to scientists from the University of Washington discuss the microbiology of soil. Who Knew! It turns out soil … Continue reading A Mighty Work: The Beginning, Part 2
Lean in and listen close. God can and wants to redeem your broken childhood. I spent the better part of my life living in fear, shame, self doubt, and neglect. From the outside, everything seemed pretty ok. But when the … Continue reading How God Redeems Our Broken Childhoods
The last two weeks have weighed heavy on me. A friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer. A friend of mine is struggling with depression. Another precious soul is deeply addicted to illegal drugs. Life feels broken and dim. And … Continue reading How He Takes Our Brokenness
Do you know what it means to be healed? It means you are free. It means your shame is so far behind you you can barely see it when you look back. It means there is freedom of emotion when … Continue reading What Healing Really Means