The past 6 months haven’t looked like anything I ever imagined.
6 months ago, one conversation changed everything. It was a series of threats that took my life-long struggle against abuse and pushed me to the edge of a cliff. And I had a choice to make. Keep allowing this person to abuse me, or walk away. I walked away. Continue reading “The Goal of Abuse is to Destroy You”
I remembering telling someone once to stop saying sorry to me because they didn’t mean it. And I was tired of hearing it every day.
That simple, childhood realization was the first time I remember distinguishing between an apology and a repentant heart. I didn’t know what to call it. I just knew I was being lied to. Continue reading “When Sorry Isn’t Enough: A Christian’s Response”
One of the lasting effects of abuse is lack of identity. Abuse, neglect, abandonment, long-term exposure to manipulation and shame…they all leave you empty and deeply insecure. Continue reading “How to Find Your God-Given Identity in the Aftermath of Brokenness”
Lean in and listen close. God can and wants to redeem your broken childhood. I spent the better part of my life living in fear, shame, self doubt, and neglect. From the outside, everything seemed pretty ok. But when the … Continue reading How God Redeems Our Broken Childhoods
1. Because emotional abuse targets your soul and your personhood and your value. 2. Because emotional abuse hides in plain sight: there are no bruises. 3. Because the PURPOSE of emotional abuse is to inflict SHAME. And shame is often … Continue reading 9 Reasons Why Emotional Abuse Is Designed to Crush You
Deep breath. I see you. I see the hurt and the scars and the longing for wholeness. I see those tears and all those nights you spent with something cold and metal against your skin hoping that any sort of … Continue reading How to Treat Abusers With Love And Honor Even When They Don’t Change